Steve-- you are the best thing.. that's ever happened to me!
Posted Nov 24 2010 7:02pm
My two loves: Raven, my black lab, and my adorable husband, Steve
I’ve been so busy food shopping, cooking, and baking for Thanksgiving. It’s so easy to get caught up with getting ready for the holiday and not take the time to think about it really means. So I wanted to to write about what I’m most thankful for. (or in this case, who I’m most thankful for) My husband, Steve, has been such an amazing support to me. It’s a combination of all the little things and big things he does for me each day. Little did he know three months after we said our vows, “in sickness and in health”, he would really be put up to the challenge!
The most important thing is he really cares about how I feel. He takes the time to listen and truly understand what I’m going through. He continually is researching and is determined to find a cure. Just the other day he told me to check my makeup ingredients because he read some of the toxins in makeup can cause problems. Steve also fully supports all of the wacky diets I’ve tried—gluten free, no sugar, no dairy, no caffeine, migraine diet etc. He supported me when I went to see an Ayurvedic doctor who put me on special herbs that stunk up the whole house. He encouraged me to try yoga, acupuncture, see a doctor at Johns Hopkins, see an allergist, try enzymes and every possible vitamin out there. He understands that as much as possible, I want to treat this naturally and he respects that.
Steve also helps me in so many ways. When I first started to get sick, I was working full time. On the weekends, I’d be in bed with a fever and bad fatigue grading papers and writing lesson plans, and he would be going to the food store, picking up the dry cleaning, doing the laundry and cooking dinner or getting take out. Even now, he will do the big food store trip on the weekend which can be very exhausting for me. Also, he knows that cooking up a big meal can really wipe me out, so he always cleans up afterwards and does the dishes. He is my sounding board anytime I need advice. I really wanted to work despite not feeling well just because I’m sick of being the sick person. But he helped me determine that I shouldn’t look for a job until I feel healthy. He helps me make decisions by analyzing every angle and not just going by emotion. He is the sound of reason that helps me when I'm not sure what to do.
I feel badly that my illness has affected our first few years of marriage. I wish we could go out more, entertain and throw dinner parties, and travel around the world. Instead, we live a very low key life. We mostly eat dinner at home, watch Law and Order re-runs and play with our black lab. There are days when we’re just vegging out at home and I'm feeling like a shlumpadinka lounging in my leggings and Uggs, and out of the blue he will just tell me that I’m beautiful. It means so much when he says things like that because I know I’m not my usual fit self and I can get really down. He always manages to know when I need a pick me up. Despite our circumstances, we still manage to have fun and laugh. For example, just the other day we had a sporadic dance party. He always tells me that although our first few years have been tough, they are our first years and he wouldn’t want it any other way. He is always looking at the bright side.My husband is an amazing person. I’m more in love with him now than I was when we first married. We’ve certainly had our handful of challenges pop up during our first three and a half years of marriage. Not only have we had my health issues, but we sold our dream house, moved around quite a bit and got hit hard with unemployment. Through it all, he has been my rock. As our relationship has grown stronger, our faith has grown stronger as well. We’ve learned to completely rely on God for His direction. I’m so blessed to have my husband. I know that he is my best friend for life and no matter what happens, we will get through it together. I hope everyone out there who is struggling with a chronic illness has a “Steve” in their life.
Me & Steve playing mini-golf in Maine
This song is dedicated to my loving husband. You are the best thing that's ever happened to me. I love you!