OK when the doc announced I needed another surgery, he expressed extreme dismay and said, "What is going on with your body? You're set to have more surgeries than ME!" I'd guess he's in his mid 40s. I don't really feel that way at all - I know I have EDS/Chiari and that's why my body tends to fall apart more quickly than others. I'm OK with that, I have accepted that and have decided to just do the best I can and take one day at a time. I also educate myself each time an issue pops up so I can make sense of it all.
I really hate pity. Yes some people feel sorry for me, but that's just because they have not come to grips with the situation like I have.
A lot of people are very shallow and focused on physical things. Having stuff, being in control of things, having certain social status, etc. I'm not really that way. There are a few physical items I would be upset to lose, but in the end, you can't take it with you! Physical things can be replaced and the physical body is not meant to last forever.
In addition I think the attitude of pity puts you into a "victim" role and I really can't stand that. It puts you in the position of being helpless. People are not helpless, they are just taught to feel that way. Then when anything "bad" happens they feel someone/something is attacking them and there's nothing they can do about it. I feel this attitude really contributes to illnesses and I wish more of us could realize we are in control of our destiny! Just think of all the people who came from nowhere, had nothing, or had a seemingly insurmountable obstacle, but ended up rich or famous or did something amazing. Did they sit around feeling sorry for themselves? Maybe a little while, but then they dusted themselves off and carried on toward their goal!
I was a little sad for a couple days after learning about my knee but now I'm trying to see the silver lining. I get to learn, I get a week or more off work to rest and relax, and maybe I can help educate and support some other people in the process. Who knows? I know my cats and dog will be ecstatic to spend some quality time with mama!