Anna is concerned about her husband’s memory. It seems Tom is having a lot of “senior moments” lately. He often misplaces his keys and has trouble remembering the names of people to whom he’s been introduced.
Anna can’t help but worry it could be something serious. In fact, she is nearly paralyzed by the fear that Tom may be developing Alzheimer’s.
Let me say right up front that the purpose of this article is not to help you determine if your loved one has Alzheimer’s. The purpose, as implied by the title, is to help you decide whether a physician should be consulted about the memory issues.
Are you worried About Your Loved One’s Memory? Here’s When to Take Them to the Doctor
We are all forgetful from time to time. Given the growing attention to Alzheimer’s in the news these days, many of us – especially we senior citizens - have a nagging worry about it. Could it be happening to our loved one?
Could he or she be getting Alzheimer’s?
According to a Harvard Health Publications article, Is It Forgetfulness or Dementia?
“A certain increase in forgetfulness seems to be a normal byproduct of aging and is perhaps a result of changes in the brain that begin around age 50, such as a gradual loss of receptors on brain cells and a decline in certain neurotransmitters.”
“Normal forgetfulness is neither progressive nor disabling. Such memory problems are likely to surface when you’re under stress, fatigued, ill, distracted, or overloaded.”Let’s take a look at the most-often cited list of ten signs of Alzheimer’s disease , presented in a PDF published by the Alzheimer’s Association
It also explains what could be considered a “normal” sign of aging for each of the 10 items. Finally, it has space to write in examples of an individual’s specific symptoms to take to the doctor.
Look closely at the PDF and you’ll notice a couple of things.
First is that the severity and frequency of a given symptom is important. For example, if a person is an accountant and becomes completely unable to balance the checkbook this may be reason for concern. But occasionally making an error while working on the checkbook is probably not something you should worry about.
The second thing is that, as mentioned above, the symptoms of Alzheimer’s typically disrupt daily life while signs of normal aging usually do not.
Additional examples of the difference between normal aging and Alzheimer’s are given in articles published by , and . The latter states that with normal aging, we may forget where we parked at the mall, but with Alzheimer’s we may forget how we got to the mall.
According to On Memory, forgetting the names of people you rarely see can be normal, while forgetting the names of people close to you can be an early sign of Alzheimer’s.
The Senior Helpers article points out that misplacing things from time to time may be normal. But putting things in very unusual places and accusing others of stealing them could be of concern.
I give the following example: If your loved one puts their glasses in a desk drawer when they normally put them on the top of the desk, that’s one thing. But putting them in the freezer or on a high shelf in the garage or in a suitcase kept in the basement is another altogether.
I personally noticed the difference between normal forgetfulness and Alzheimer’s in my loved one several years ago. It started innocently enough with him sometimes forgetting proper nouns.
But then he began calling things strange names. For example, he would refer to the Fifth Third Bank as “Kroger’s.” Then his name calling became bizarre. He called his hands “elbows” and he said that his watch was “glasses.”
Then one evening he called me because he couldn’t find his scissors. So far, so good. Occasionally not being able to find a given object is common, I thought to myself.
But when I told him to look in his kitchen – that’s where he kept them – he became confused and asked me what a kitchen was. He then informed me with certainty that he didn’t have a kitchen.
That’s when I had to admit that something very serious was wrong and that I needed to take him to the doctor.
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I would suggest two circumstances that might lead you to take your loved one to a doctor.
First, if they are experiencing the type of memory issues indicated above as possible signs of Alzheimer’s, it would be a good idea to write examples down on the Alzheimer’s Association PDF and take it to a neurologist or family physician.
Second, even if they aren’t having such memory problems but either you or they are still overly worried about memory issues, it might be worth a trip to the doctor.
It isn’t pleasant to have a loved one evaluated for Alzheimer’s, but a physician may determine that it’s not Alzheimer’s. That will put your mind and theirs at ease.
And, as I discussed in a previous article I published here, , if it is Alzheimer’s it’s best to know sooner rather than later. There are many important benefits to early diagnosis.
This is a companion piece to an article published on the Huffington Post about when you yourself should go to the doctor for memory concerns.