I have become a TV-a-holic since I got a DVR (similar concept to Tevo). Grey's Anatomy is the newest show added to my repertoire. According to ABC" Grey's Anatomy focuses on young people struggling to be doctors and doctors struggling to stay human. It's the drama and intensity of medical training mixed with the funny, sexy, painful lives of interns who are about to discover that neither medicine nor relationships can be defined in black and white. Real life only comes in shades of grey."
Well last night, the show featured a woman in her 40's who was pregnant and experiencing a recurrence of advanced staged breast cancer. She described that for years she had wanted to have a baby, and it had finally happened for her. Unfortunately, the enhanced cell growth due to pregnancy had cause Cancer to speed up it's growth as well. The doctors presented her with two options: 1. terminate the pregnancy in order to undergo chemo and radiation and have a pretty decent (not great) prognosis. OR 2. she could continue with her pregnancy, allowing her Cancer to spread and perhaps not live to see that child grow. The doctors were obviously pushing her to terminate the pregnancy and treat her disease. Her doctor (Sandra Oh - love her!) said to her "I am just trying to help you live." And when the woman decided that by keeping the baby and continuing on the road to motherhood would be best way to live, the doctor was in disbelief.
I found this story line to be very thought provoking. I began playing the "what-if" game in my head, and thought a lot about what I would do. Now, at my ripe old age of 27, I know that my priority would be getting myself better and would terminate the pregnancy with hopes of living to try again. BUT if I were in my 40's, after fighting of cancer for long periods of time, and finally was able to have a baby, I am not so sure what my answer would be. When the character said that by having the baby and foregoing treatment, that she was "living," I totally felt that. I could completely agree with that statement, because I too often feel that Cancer had prevented me from living the way I wanted to live. In sum, the entire episode I was thinking "she better go through with treatment, as it is her best option for long term survival." BUT when I heard her justification for her decision, I thought to myself that she was right.
Now, I am fully aware that this is TV-land and all, and maybe this was not totally realistic. AND maybe most people would agree with the doctors and go through with terminating the pregnancy and having treatment. BUT as someone who has been through the unpleasantries of chemo, and surgery, and Cancer, I say RIGHT ON, you go and live the way you want to live your life.