Whenever we're "down" about prostate cancer or a myriad of other concerns like the current economic crisis, it's a good idea to remember the old saying, "I never promised you a rose garden."
Rather than falling into the trap of self-pity, this comment reminds us that as far as we know, ever since Adam and Eve, nobody can claim they have lived in paradise! This applies especially to those who have experienced a disease like prostate cancer or its after effects.
Author Virginia Satir has paraphrased this thought by pointing out that, "Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference."
In other words, when illness strikes the only way you can overcome pain and sorrow is to choose to cope rather than choose not to cope. In making that fundamental choice you won't regain paradise, but neither will you feel your life is hell.
For the most part life can be lived somewhere between those two extremes. The decision is yours to take in the fragrance of the rose even when you touch its thorns.