I consider myself to be a very reasonable person. If there is something you need you can generally count on me to help. I don't think I mentioned on my blog that I have another 16 year old teen age boy living with me. He has been with me since 3 days after my surgery he moved in April 7th. The mom called frantic that she needed her son to stay with someone temporarily while she situates herself in buying the house she put an offer on. The living conditions the boy was in was not the best, His extended family did not like him, he was sleeping in the basement on an air mattress....Plus they were verbally abusive towards him. Not a good place for a boy to be in. I had met him many times prior nice kid... The plan was supposed to be till the end of May It has now been four months.
Here he was at long last about to move into his "new home" he was packing his clothes and then he received a text from his mom. Now I had been trying to reach her for over a week, she never returned a call to me
The text read the deal did not go through, this was Sunday, she already knew Friday but didn't tell her son or me. He was so disappointed he went into his room and cried.
She finally after a great deal of prodding called me....She was going to farm him off on relatives that live in Windsor - his father's family. the dad has a history of drug abuse and being violent towards his children.. duh!! that was the reason she divorced him. But she felt that he should stay with the fathers relatives and see him while he was there. He was so opposed to the idea and I in good conscience could not send him where his safety could be in question. My son and I talked about it and agreed he should stay here. Mom called me this evening.. I needed to make a few things clear with her. When she asked if he could stay she made the gesture of paying me $200.00 per month for expenses food etc...To date I have not seen a dime and really I don't care about the money .. Not a big deal. Just get something once in a while. I told mom to fill me in about the situation, I have company coming from the UK in September and I will need the spare room back. Her response was that I have suddenly added more stress on her by telling her this.... It wasn't all I said..... I told her time to step up to the plate and at least buy a case of water or soft drinks for the boys, or occasional snacks for her son that he likes. contribute to helping, I don't mind helping but when you have two teen boys things disappear fast. Her reply she does not appreciate being told what to do.... "I don't care but I have your son living with me 4 months and updates on your situation are important. She felt I was demeaning her. I kinda lost my cool....Bluntly told her that I helped you right after I had surgery, my younger brother died April 24th, I had chemo starting, I have been sicker than a dog and I wake up with pain in my body daily.....so your issues are not that significant but your son's are. He is not running the streets as he could be, he has a safe home, his own room for privacy .. I have Chemo tomorrow so I don't plan sitting here on the phone arguing non points....because I asked you a few important questions... Anyway........I shook my head laughed at the whole thing and thought how can such a good kid end up with a flaky mother that doesn't seem to give a damn..Bottom line if things are bad for him he knows outright he always has a home with us.
I don't think I mentioned on my blog that I have another 16 year old teen age boy living with me. He has been with me since 3 days after my surgery he moved in April 7th. The mom called frantic that she needed her son to stay with someone temporarily while she situates herself in buying the house she put an offer on. The living conditions the boy was in was not the best, His extended family did not like him, he was sleeping in the basement on an air mattress....Plus they were verbally abusive towards him. Not a good place for a boy to be in. I had met him many times prior nice kid... The plan was supposed to be till the end of May
It has now been four months.
Here he was at long last about to move into his "new home" he was packing his clothes and then he received a text from his mom. Now I had been trying to reach her for over a week, she never returned a call to me
The text read the deal did not go through, this was Sunday, she already knew Friday but didn't tell her son or me. He was so disappointed he went into his room and cried.
She finally after a great deal of prodding called me....She was going to farm him off on relatives that live in Windsor - his father's family. the dad has a history of drug abuse and being violent towards his children.. duh!! that was the reason she divorced him. But she felt that he should stay with the fathers relatives and see him while he was there. He was so opposed to the idea and I in good conscience could not send him where his safety could be in question. My son and I talked about it and agreed he should stay here.
Mom called me this evening.. I needed to make a few things clear with her. When she asked if he could stay she made the gesture of paying me $200.00 per month for expenses food etc...To date I have not seen a dime and really I don't care about the money .. Not a big deal. Just get something once in a while.
I told mom to fill me in about the situation, I have company coming from the UK in September and I will need the spare room back.
Her response was that I have suddenly added more stress on her by telling her this.... It wasn't all I said..... I told her time to step up to the plate and at least buy a case of water or soft drinks for the boys, or occasional snacks for her son that he likes. contribute to helping, I don't mind helping but when you have two teen boys things disappear fast. Her reply she does not appreciate being told what to do.... "I don't care but I have your son living with me 4 months and updates on your situation are important. She felt I was demeaning her. I kinda lost my cool....Bluntly told her that I helped you right after I had surgery, my younger brother died April 24th, I had chemo starting, I have been sicker than a dog and I wake up with pain in my body daily.....so your issues are not that significant but your son's are. He is not running the streets as he could be, he has a safe home, his own room for privacy .. I have Chemo tomorrow so I don't plan sitting here on the phone arguing non points....because I asked you a few important questions...
Anyway........I shook my head laughed at the whole thing and thought how can such a good kid end up with a flaky mother that doesn't seem to give a damn..Bottom line if things are bad for him he knows outright he always has a home with us.