Anger Is Like Drinking Poison & Expecting the "Other" Person to Die
Posted Apr 25 2011 12:09pm
What is anger?
Among other things, it's a very negative emotion inside of you which is generally (but not always) about someone or something outside of you ... for whatever reason. In theory, what you want, is for the other person to pay in some fashion, for something they have done or said, or not done or not said.
As you get angry, heat may suffuse your body, you may find it hard to think, your vision may blur momentarily, your heart beat may increase, your fists may ball, acid may accumulate in your stomach, your mouth may feel dry ... in other words, you may experience one or more uncomfortable physical sensations to go along with your already uncomfortable emotional sensations.
So we might say that as you have allowed yourself to become angry, you've taken a drink of figurative poison ... but you want the poison to have an effect on the other person.
Kind of silly, isn't it? Why would you drink poison if you wanted it to affect someone else? So why not consider the words of the paragraph before this one ... as you have allowed yourself to become angry ... because the fact is that you have allowed the anger. I don't mean the first flash of it ... that may have been involuntary ... but from that point on, you fan the flame, you continue to drink from the poisonous glass ... and that is indeed your choice that you can do something about. Not by pretending the anger is not there, but by choosing to look elsewhere, by refusing to allow your anger to control you, by choosing to go back to a place within yourself where you can feel better than this momentary flare of anger would allow you to ... all of this can be your choice.
So, look at your intention: do you choose to drink poison, or do you choose to look at your alternatives? And then, from that place of conscious awareness, do you choose to make new - and better - choices. Remember, if your anger is controlled by something outside of you, then you are controlled by something or someone else.