Well now I feel quite silly. I have solved the mystery of why most people/men annoy the crap out of me. It's fairly obvious too... they just aren't intelligent.
I was afraid to write this for fear of sounding like a pompous cocky little punk. But seriously, if you were to ask the people that "know" me (aside from all Stage 5 Clingers, lol) they will agree that I am intelligent. And not just in the "yeah, I took calculus" kinda of static smart, but in a more dynamic way of smartness that can be applied to almost any situation (if that makes any sense). An intelligence in the way of thinking and processing novel situations and such. An intelligence in the way of thinking about "life".
Okay, what I am getting at is that there have not been many men-folk in my life that are equal to me on this level. I have not dated someone that can challenge or keep up with me mentally. I do not wish to sound stuck up, but I think that has been the problem with my past realtionships/dating... we weren't on the same "level". Well, except for J, he was on my level, just lacking the book smarts I have for science and stuff. Which I didn't mind.
Clearly there was still something missing (as we are obviously not together at this point, and I believe these things happen for a reason). He did not have my positive resilient attitude towards life. He didn't have the same opinions that I do about the effects of our cognitions on out mental condition and all of those things which I firmly belive in and apply as best as I can to everyday life.
And dang, I fell off the original path I was heading down. I meant to focus on the idea of finding someone intelligent to date and what not. It makes a huge difference. I had no idea until I started to converse regularly with someone, surprisingly this person is my "fun" friend. Hell this is the first time I've hooked up with someone (in a "fun" not relationship manner) that I can actually listen to talk for more than 2 minutes without wanting to smother him with a pillow. This is good. Better yet, there are certain variables in this person that get in the way of me being romantically attracted to him, but I'm totally okay with that, I'm just here for the fun right now.
Off topic again. The main point here, is that I believe I need to be with someone intelligent. And I have high hopes of finding this when I am off at graduate school. Seems like a good place to find a hunky owner of a PhD, right??
Now bear in mind, I have never been the girl to have a list of "pre-requisites" a man must meet to be considered for dating. But now... I hate to sound like a snob, but I seriously think being pretty intelligent is my pre-req.
I was afraid to write this for fear of sounding like a pompous cocky little punk. But seriously, if you were to ask the people that "know" me (aside from all Stage 5 Clingers, lol) they will agree that I am intelligent. And not just in the "yeah, I took calculus" kinda of static smart, but in a more dynamic way of smartness that can be applied to almost any situation (if that makes any sense). An intelligence in the way of thinking and processing novel situations and such. An intelligence in the way of thinking about "life".
Okay, what I am getting at is that there have not been many men-folk in my life that are equal to me on this level. I have not dated someone that can challenge or keep up with me mentally. I do not wish to sound stuck up, but I think that has been the problem with my past realtionships/dating... we weren't on the same "level". Well, except for J, he was on my level, just lacking the book smarts I have for science and stuff. Which I didn't mind.
Clearly there was still something missing (as we are obviously not together at this point, and I believe these things happen for a reason). He did not have my positive resilient attitude towards life. He didn't have the same opinions that I do about the effects of our cognitions on out mental condition and all of those things which I firmly belive in and apply as best as I can to everyday life.
And dang, I fell off the original path I was heading down. I meant to focus on the idea of finding someone intelligent to date and what not. It makes a huge difference. I had no idea until I started to converse regularly with someone, surprisingly this person is my "fun" friend. Hell this is the first time I've hooked up with someone (in a "fun" not relationship manner) that I can actually listen to talk for more than 2 minutes without wanting to smother him with a pillow. This is good. Better yet, there are certain variables in this person that get in the way of me being romantically attracted to him, but I'm totally okay with that, I'm just here for the fun right now.
Off topic again. The main point here, is that I believe I need to be with someone intelligent. And I have high hopes of finding this when I am off at graduate school. Seems like a good place to find a hunky owner of a PhD, right??
Now bear in mind, I have never been the girl to have a list of "pre-requisites" a man must meet to be considered for dating. But now... I hate to sound like a snob, but I seriously think being pretty intelligent is my pre-req.