I want to thank everyone for their comments and emails yesterday but please don't think the SU a bad person, or mean, uncaring, insensitive or any other thing along that vein. He is a good person and save for telling the spawn and upsetting her he did nothing wrong.
I don't blame him for his decision, he's been through a lot, he's stood by me for many years and I for my part have in all likelihood made his life very difficult. I have a temper and well by being the way I am (read bi-polar) I am prone to mood swings and mini depressions and that must wear on the other party who is trying their best to have a happy, peaceful existence. I'm actually amazed that it took twelve years for it to get to this point, there should be some sort of medal for that sort of dedication.
Okay the timing could have been better and he really did not have to tell poor Spawn anything, but nothing in life is perfect and he's hurt, he's probably more hurt than I am. He thinks I hate him, I don't. I'm not even angry, I guess you could say I'm comfortably numb. I'm hurting for poor Spawnlet, she is really very upset by the prospect of not having both her parents together but she will still have two parents who love her very much.
Anyway don't judge him harshly, he's been through a lot and don't call him names, I have the right to do so, you don't, you don't know what he's been through.
I don't blame him for his decision, he's been through a lot, he's stood by me for many years and I for my part have in all likelihood made his life very difficult. I have a temper and well by being the way I am (read bi-polar) I am prone to mood swings and mini depressions and that must wear on the other party who is trying their best to have a happy, peaceful existence. I'm actually amazed that it took twelve years for it to get to this point, there should be some sort of medal for that sort of dedication.
Okay the timing could have been better and he really did not have to tell poor Spawn anything, but nothing in life is perfect and he's hurt, he's probably more hurt than I am. He thinks I hate him, I don't. I'm not even angry, I guess you could say I'm comfortably numb. I'm hurting for poor Spawnlet, she is really very upset by the prospect of not having both her parents together but she will still have two parents who love her very much.
Anyway don't judge him harshly, he's been through a lot and don't call him names, I have the right to do so, you don't, you don't know what he's been through.