When the Autism Speaks “I am autism” video came out, I really didn’t like it. It was on such a primal level that I couldn’t put words to how much or why I found it offensive.
One problem with leaving my reasoning unsaid is that many people reach the wrong conclusions. I have read here and elsewhere complaints that people like myself who criticize “I am autism” don’t understand that it is about the most challenged (low functioning) autistics.
I would say that anyone who thinks “I am autism” is about the challenges of autistics (“high functioning” or “low functioning”) didn’t pay close attention to the video.
My voice isn’t the one that matters when it comes to autism. It really does take an idiot not to get that. I think a lot of my role as a parent is shutting up and listening. Until I am able to be quiet long enough that I can understand what they are wanting/needing I have no business being anyone’s voice. That’s a lesson that Autism Speaks obviously hasn’t learned.
It has been said that most stories have three main elements: a villain, a victim and a hero. “I am autism” certainly uses this three-pronged plot device. Let’s take a look:
The Villain: Autism
Autism Speaks very clearly has cast “autism” as the villain. Autism has no morality. Autism doesn’t know right or wrong. Autism wants to steal our children and our dreams.
Autism is some sort of science fiction monster or demon who stalks our children.
The victims: Parents
Watch the video and ask: Who is affected by autism? If all we had was the video to go by, the answer would be simple: Parents. Autism takes money away from…parents. Autism ruins the marriages of…parents. When a child has a meltdown in a public place, a park or temple or birthday party, it is the parents who are embarrassed. The death of a parent is important in the fact that the parent dies worrying about who will take care of their child or children.
The heroes: Parents
Yes, the parents are cast in two roles, victims and heroes. OK, not just parents. Grandparents, brothers and sisters are also heroes. Teachers, therapists, pediatricians and scientists get supporting roles as heroes as well. They are a community of warriors.
OK, that’s what I don’t like. If I were to make an appeal for funding (which is what I assume “I am autism” is for Autism Speaks), how would I frame it? What would I change?
First, autistics were given no voices in this video. It is all people speaking for autistics. Leaving autistics out is wrong on so many levels. Many, many levels. I could write the entire blog post on that one topic, and still have people pointing out things I missed.
Second, they still pose the discussion as primarily about children. There is at least one adult shown in the videos, but by far most of the video and voiceover is about children. Autism Speaks claims that there are 1.5 million autistics in the U.S. Perhaps it is time they acknowledged the 1.0 million adults and not just the half million children.
Third, I don’t like the victim device. No, I am not saying that autistics don’t face challenges, or that the challenges some face are very, very great. I am not in denial of that. I just don’t like victimizing the people you are purporting to help. It is paternalistic and it is counterproductive to many of the goals that are very important, like trying to help people live as independent a life as possible.
Which brings us to the fourth point:
Fourth, with apologies to my fellow parents, but the autistics really are the heroes. There are kids working harder in kindergarten than some people work in grad school. There are adults working harder just to get through the day than I do at work. If we are supposed to pity the parent who is embarrassed by their child in the park, how about some compassion for the child (or adult) undergoing the meltdown? We are supposed to feel the pain of the parent who wakes up crying wondering about “who will take care of my child after I die”. How about the autistic who will spend most of his/her life without a parent caregiver?
Who, really, is the hero? When will Autism Speaks get it that it is time to stop patting themselves on their own backs and start acknowledging the accomplishments of their children and the many autistics in the world. Autism Speaks could go a long way towards that by integrating their own organization with the very people they purport to represent: autistics. Get some autistics into Autism Speaks and start listening.