The week of March 22; In which we see Pretend Play Progress
Posted Mar 25 2010 7:42pm
I finish all my cooking really fast on Saturday and there is still a lot of the glorious Sunny Saturday left
DH and I have worked like maniacs and ALL our work is complete
OMG how beautiful the sunny neighborhood looks
We simply have a lovely time - lolling about in the trampoline- R and I - playing our silly games
R commanding me to sleep - then I wake up at the count of 10 - I count all the way to 9 -
Then build up the anticipation ..
R wrigles and squeals and says 10 giggling .
At which point I wake up suddenly with a lot of drama and tickle him
The games are very childlike- we-have a great time though
Another game is making me sing - he will command me to sing Jingle Bells .. midway through - he will demand I switch to Rudolph the red nose.
He gets a major kick out of this and wil giggle and squeal as I switch songs "on demand"
Then we hold hands and run - till he says STOP ... then he says GO and we run again
The sound of his laughter is like nothing I can describe
So delightful - it fills my heart !
We ride his bike and R does this pretty well . Its a small trike that my friend gave him last summer
He needs the gravity but does relatively well
R insists we" back"( bike ) to Ucy's house ( lucy's house )
So we do
Lucy is back after a back breaking day of selling her frig and buying a new one
She is off for more good works and is off to an old lady's house who lives in our neighborhood
She says "Bye darling" to R and to my surprise he replies "Bye dar-ing"
She is looking so tired that while she is off - I go back home and leave a big bowl of Minestrone soup and Parmesan cheese for her and Eli's dinner on her porch
I always think Food cheers up people
Later in the night she calls me on the phone and the spring is back in her voice :-)
It really feels lovely to do something nice for someone ( though I feel too goody goody gum drops for words - even typing this )
Our Hanen speechie is to comes home today for a video session
We are supposed to show a game that we play with R -
this is an impossible task - We pull out this game and try to play with R - the idea is to put the alphabet on the picture that it starts with so to put "m" on the picture of milk
R gets this quickly and finishes off the puzzle...... by himself ( which is not the point AT ALL )
However, when we try to take turns with him... its like pulling teeth
he slumps - his whole body limp - in an act of passive resistance
Our Hanen speechie gives us an idea - just to give him the patience to do the game - to keep it really short
We write on a sheet of paper -
R's turn ,
All done - get 3 Junior Mints
We cross off as each turn is done and we do OUR FIRST TURN TAKING GAME
She also had many other great tips
While reading a book describe what HE is looking at ( not just read the book as you think it should be read) This is FABULOUS example of the Floortime principle of following the lead and an example of how many of the principles that encourage communication are similar in Hanen Floortime Sonrise and RDI
DH has made a book called "My Family " where he has put pictures of R and all the people in his family with a description of each picture - like a picture of him and R with a description of who they are - and some simple things they do together - like eat lunch on Friday at the Mall.
This is a masterful idea
R loves this and I think we will soon have a library of "R books "
Do video modeling - so do a pretend play sequence - with some dolls - make a video and show it to him Then see if he can copy the sequence. Her theory is that .. he would start to add his own variations I am eager to try this out
We also show her what we do with Wii Fit - she loves it and gives me some great ideas
Create a disruption - ( example : put the remote on my head instead of in my hand )
Put my face right next to the screen
Speak less and with HIGH affect
T his therapist is here after many days
R makes a big fuss of her - holding her face, stroking her hair and kisses her cheeks in that charming way he has - T asks me if she can take him home
DH has found the 100 calories popocorn snack bags - I tell him that the 100 calorie bag is just as satisfying as the 220 calorie bag
This of course reminds me that I could be using the same principes on the dreadful Wii Fit that is ruining my eveining
And so I set the timer for 40 minutes
And we are able to have a lovely time on the trampoline as a result
R still has a lot of something that looks like Separation Anxiety-
I go off for a quick walk while he is eating his little snack after dinner - when I come back I find R snuggling on the couch with DH tearfully saying Mother mother
He is very reproachful and I have to humbly woo him back.
Today is the one day when we can have a date lunch - DH is in his last Hanen class - and he is late coming back
he tells me to meet him at Bravo's and order pig for him
its 12.15 by the time I get there and we get a rotten table and I have to sit by myself and order our meals
This is not my idea of a date lunch at all - for I love to chat in a leisurely fashion- not be starving and shoveling the bread in my mouth without regard for calories or grace
Still its better than nothing
I am full of reproach at how late he is but cannot say anything as he is after all, coming from a Hanen class- "doing all the works" as he tells me righteously
As soon as we get the meal - we have to ask for a box and the check...