Again R ignores the amazing kids
While as always being sweet to the adults - here is R nestled to my friend
DH and I sternly remind ourselves that we need to attack social skills next
Especially reading stories of many autistic adults ( who I learn a lot from ) makes me feel guilty.
These adults talk about how they just wanted to be "left alone" by other children when they were young,.
But they feel their lack of friends and loneliness as they grow up .
This is one thing we cannot ignore
( I must admit that the weight of all the things "we cannot ignore" weighs heavily on me some times )
The kids have demanded a classical Indian meal that DH and I make painstakingly
DH is a bit of a food snob and is ALARMED by the plebeian way in which I am cooking
He grabs the jar from me and tells me to "respect the saffron"
Not only must I use the right ingredients - apparently its also essential to coddle each ingredient
I leave DH to make out with the spices and do the rest of the things suitable to my "pedestrian abilities ( grunt work like vaccuming )
The meal is DELICIOUS and the kids beg for seconds ( and everyone complements me on the sparkling house )
So both DH's bourgeoisie skills and my plebeian ones are well appreciated !!
I am reading a lot these days
One interesting thing that I noticed was how the experience of a book changes with time.
I re-read Wuthering Heights recently . I used to say it was my favorite book - but I was shocked by how illogical the characters were. I wanted to yell at Heathcliff ( that same person that 17 year old me thought was very romantic )
I think its the same with life .
We can say we will never do this and we will always do that
But we dont know how we will feel about this or that when we are at that point in time .
A woman once wrote about her mother that her mother used to always say that she will never become shapeless like old people do. When this woman was burying her mother - she noted how her mother had managed to stay shapely. I am alwasy struck by the people who manage to stick to something for their whole life . I feel I keep changing
The other thing I realized is just how much I read . I started to write short posts about books I am reading in a separate blog here
I noticed that I read more than 10 books in the month of November.
This really has been made possible by Audio books that I listen to while doing chores
I have the typical poverty of time, but I do have time while doing other things and also I have little bursts of 10 minutes here and there
I have been thinking also that this approach could apply to Floortime as well
DH and I have both had little bouts of sickies.
I am always struck by the kindness of R - he tries to stay close to the one who is not feeling well
Last night when DH was not feeling well, R stayed snuggled up to DH all evening ( his usual place is to stay stuck to me )
His sweetness and goodness make my heart constrict sometime
This month's Nature magazine is devoted to Autism - its super expensive but I was lucky enough to have a friend who lend me her copy.
i will summarize the many good articles in that magazine - so you can read them too
(One of the articles talk about prenatal screening for autism .This breaks my heart - it really does. But let me not dwell on that here )
As I peel a reluctant R from DH's arms to get him ready for bed I tell DH that we really won the kid lottery.
We really did, says DH