I have to add that to every story there are many sides. It wasn't all negative by any means, in fact quite the reverse. Therein lies the grief and the regret. One thing that I should have mentioned earlier is this sympton called 'ruminating'. It sounds like something sheep do, but in the world of psychology means taking a thought and relentlessly dwelling up on it. When you miss somebody it feels like a bereavement, and it's neigh impossible to shake out the thoughts of them and the good memories from of ones head. It's maddening and just another aspect of the anxiety. People cannot understand why you continue to hold loving thoughts for someone who has hurt you, but I suppose they function with a clearer more rational mind.
When someone is lost, it's fine for you to talk about them and pour out any thoughts without anyone becoming bored or finding the conversation tiresome. When somebody leaves that same empathy is replaced with annoyance and frustration that you are somehow weak. Perhaps they feel too angry with that person for placing you in such an unhappy position and they wish you could simply move on and be joyous. That they are not worthy of airtime in your thoughts.
One thing perhaps is to picture yourself as your own friend. What advice would you be giving to somebody in your particular situation?
I read once in a magazine whilst sitting idle in a waiting room, that if you cannot trust your partner then leave them. If they do not share your morals and principles then failure is inevitable. The successful relationship will happen when you have ditched the 'losers'. There's truth in that certainly but it's never so straight forward. No one is perfect, and we all come with our quirks and idiosyncrasies, and the world would be a very dull place if we all thought the same way.
Besides, who is to say what is normal anyway?
I have to add that to every story there are many sides. It wasn't all negative by any means, in fact quite the reverse. Therein lies the grief and the regret. One thing that I should have mentioned earlier is this sympton called 'ruminating'. It sounds like something sheep do, but in the world of psychology means taking a thought and relentlessly dwelling up on it. When you miss somebody it feels like a bereavement, and it's neigh impossible to shake out the thoughts of them and the good memories from of ones head. It's maddening and just another aspect of the anxiety. People cannot understand why you continue to hold loving thoughts for someone who has hurt you, but I suppose they function with a clearer more rational mind.
When someone is lost, it's fine for you to talk about them and pour out any thoughts without anyone becoming bored or finding the conversation tiresome. When somebody leaves that same empathy is replaced with annoyance and frustration that you are somehow weak. Perhaps they feel too angry with that person for placing you in such an unhappy position and they wish you could simply move on and be joyous. That they are not worthy of airtime in your thoughts.
One thing perhaps is to picture yourself as your own friend. What advice would you be giving to somebody in your particular situation?
I read once in a magazine whilst sitting idle in a waiting room, that if you cannot trust your partner then leave them. If they do not share your morals and principles then failure is inevitable. The successful relationship will happen when you have ditched the 'losers'. There's truth in that certainly but it's never so straight forward. No one is perfect, and we all come with our quirks and idiosyncrasies, and the world would be a very dull place if we all thought the same way.
Besides, who is to say what is normal anyway?