Where is our parents' controlling behavior coming from?
Posted Jan 04 2012 12:00am
Sometimes the dynamics between caregiver and care receiving parents are just a continuation of the dynamics that were always there – a child trying to please a parent who can’t be pleased. The controlling behavior is abusive and likely handed down from generation to generation. This behavior is so entrenched in the family that it seems only therapy could change anything and family therapy is not likely to happen at this late date. However, sometimes, if the caregiver gets brave enough to decide what is just bad temper they can live with and what is abusive, and then sets boundaries and sticks to them, the situation can be made more bearable.
Sometimes the dynamics between caregiver and care receiving parents are just a continuation of the dynamics that were always there – a child trying to please a parent who can’t be pleased. The controlling behavior is abusive and likely handed down from generation to generation. This behavior is so entrenched in the family that it seems only therapy could change anything and family therapy is not likely to happen at this late date. However, sometimes, if the caregiver gets brave enough to decide what is just bad temper they can live with and what is abusive, and then sets boundaries and sticks to them, the situation can be made more bearable.
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