Flowers and cards were a big deal to my parents, especially on
Valentine's Day and their anniversary. Sadly, after dad's failed brain
surgery threw him into dementia it was obvious that Dad would no longer
be able to actively participate.
I knew Dad, if he could make that decision, would want to give Mom
flowers and a card. I knew Mom would want to do the same for him. The
only problem was, neither of them was capable of choosing a card or
arranging for flowers to be delivered. And Dad couldn't even understand
what the celebration was about. How do we celebrate special occasions
when one or more of the people involved can't participate? Do we follow
through, or do we pretend the special day doesn't exist?