Sibling wants to help caregiver after long absence
Posted Jan 03 2011 12:00am
Dear Carol: My sister has been the primary caregiver for our dad for nearly five years. I’ve lived out of state, and I haven’t been emotionally or physically available. I’m now retired and moving back to our home town. I know I’ve been selfish about this and want to make up for my lack of help. How do I approach this? Missing Sister
Dear Missing: Recognizing that your sister has done so much on her own, and that your sudden appearance and ability to help may seem intrusive is good. That will help you tactfully feel your way along. Likely, your sister will be more than thrilled to have your help, but she will need time to adjust to your rather sudden wish to be involved.