Muddear has quite an obsession with money and has been asking for it daily. It is not my intention to cause Muddear to feel devalued so I never tell her "NO" outright. Instead, I tell her that I have to go to the bank and make a withdrawal from her account then surreptitiously pretend to forget. Ultimately, I hope that she will forget that we ever had the conversation. Why you ask? Because Muddear either gives all of her money away or loses it.
It is not uncommon for Muddear to forget where she is. When this occurs she mentally reverts back to the days when she lived independently in an apartment. During that time in Muddear's life, because she never obtained her driver's license, she would pay people to either run her errands or chauffer her to wherever she needed to go. Whenever this occurred Muddear always paid the individual for their assistance. I am sure you can see where this is going...
When Muddear has money she tries to pay us for pushing her while in her wheelchair from the bathroom to her bedroom. Or she wants to pay us for getting her a drink of water. Muddear will try to pay the kids for handing her tissues. Or the aide for facilitating her bath. She will not take NO for an answer so we secretly return it back to her room when she is not paying attention.
Eventually Muddear begins to lose the money. This of course sets off a chain reaction...Muddear thinks people are stealing from her and starts hiding the money in her socks, under the pillow, rolled it up in toilet paper and stuffing it in her pocket, or anywhere else she can think of. Within a month all of the money is gone and Muddear begins accusing people of stealing her money.
In spite of it all I gave Muddear $10.00 dollars yesterday. We'll see how long it lasts.