Daughter Overwhelmed With Parents’ Sudden Care Needs
Posted Jan 28 2013 12:00am
Carol: A year ago, my mother had a heart attack. She came out of it fairly well,
but still can’t do much around the house. Then, last month my dad had a stroke.
I’m an only child and feel overwhelmed with all of this. Before his stroke, Dad
could take care of Mom and the house. He’s now in rehab and even with therapy
the specialists don’t think he’ll walk again. I’m married and have two children
and a job. I guess I just feel overwhelmed. How do I go about getting our lives
in order so I can help my parents and still care for my family and work? -
Janet: It’s no wonder you feel overwhelmed. When our parents need help, we generally want to
dive in and do all we can. You also have a family and a job. There is only so
much you can do, so you’ll probably need to start arranging for some paid
assistance. If you can afford a geriatric care manager, that would be a
terrific first step because this person could help you plan and delegate.
However, good care managers are expensive. If that’s not an option, you’ll have
to find resources on your own.