I just had a great visit with an Al-Anon friend. After a couple of hours of sharing with a little bit of crying, I remembered something that has helped me in the past: to laugh at the crazy people in my life.
I remembered how much it helped to take this stance when my spouse was toward the end of his drinking days. Although quite intelligent, he would say the stupidest things in his denial. My daughter and I would laugh rather than get upset.
It not only worked to lighten the mood in the house, but I hadn't done anything for which I had to make amends.
And I felt better, too, because I can just take things way too seriously...