If you have found this website you are invited to join us in a weekend long, Al-Anon Meeting.
The on-line meeting starts Friday evening 5/16/08 and runs to Sunday 5/18/08 evening.
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This is where we start: ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The people in Al-Anon are bound together by a common background and history. We have been affected by some one's alcoholism. We love this person. We care for this person. And in our love and care we trip over the boundaries of care and love and start to do for the person what they can do for themselves.
These lines are hard to distinguish, as we mistakenly try to help the other person, and attempt to pick up what they drop, feel the pain they feel and express the emotions they cannot express.
We become - in a sense - them. And we lose our perspective and we lose ourselves.
Recovery needs to become our foremost criteria. We are ill and we don't recognize it. Our thinking is clouded and our judgement is distorted. We are angry, depressed, are anxious, feel unaccepted and unloved.
Some of us move away from a higher power, believing or questioning our higher power for allowing this to happen to us.
Getting recovery is what Al-Anon tries to help us do. And this is the quote from the Al-Anon book "From Survival to Recovery," page 138, that I would like to share for this weekend:
Recovering people are Al-Anon's treasure. Because of the people in the program, I have found acceptance, support, and love so warm I can hardly describe it. I didn't know unconditional love existed. Now I know it exists in abundance.
I've learned that it is much more harmful and painful for me to carry grudges and resentments than it is to go through the grieving process I may need to go through to forgive my past and forgive myself. I've learned that I'm not perfect and I don't have to be.
The reading goes on to page 139 . . .
. . . Changing my attitude has allowed love to flood in from everywhere. It is a great way to live, far better then anything I had ever thought possible. I wouldn't be alive to write this without the help I received from every single person who held my hand along the way. They say the best way to keep this program is to give it away.
Getting to meetings and getting help from others helps us change our own attitudes and helps us get a clearer perspective and see how we are contributing to the chaos.
We need to be aware that there are solutions for changing our attitudes and perspectives which affect our well-being. This needs to become one of our primary tasks in order for us to improve our recovery.
Our recovery is paramount, whether we are living with the alcoholic or whether we are not.
And this is where we discuss - changing our attitudes . . . and what we have done or can do to improve our personal situations.