Living with an alcoholic spouse is always chaotic. The non-addicted spouse will often tell me they are abused verbally and emotionally by their alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife. In some cases, physical abuse is an issue. Here are 10 examples of emotional abuse from an alcoholic spouse.
Your alcoholic spouse is sarcastic, criticizes you, and belittles you (verbal assaults).
Your alcoholic husband spouse treats you with contempt when he has been drinking. Sometimes he curses, yells, and has even punched a hole in a wall or door in a drunken rage.
Your alcoholic wife starts arguments when she has been drinking and acts irritable and aggressive.
Your alcoholic spouse blames their drinking on you and says they drink because you nag them.
Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife has an extra marital affair.
They don’t come home at night and don’t answer calls or texts from you,
Your alcoholic spouse doesn’t take responsibility for their behavior and minimizes their drinking problem.
Your alcoholic wife is unpredictable when she drinks and the family feels like they should walk on eggshells around her.
Your alcoholic husband has withdrawn emotionally and sexually from you.
Your alcoholic spouse won’t acknowledge your needs. There is no partnership anymore.
These are all examples of emotional abuse. You feel powerless. You don’t feel like you have a voice in the relationship any more. Your self esteem is shot from being a doormat. There is no room in this relationship for your needs. You are dominated by your spouse and their drinking problem.
You deserve good will and support. You deserve love and affection. You deserve to be treated with respect. You deserve honesty.
What can you do?
There are changes you can make that will address your own needs and may actually motivate your alcoholic spouse to get the help they need. Start focusing on your needs. You count! Reconnect with friends who affirm you. Go to Al-Anon or Families Anonymous to get support. See a therapist to work through your own issues. Learn to set boundaries.
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