Has your alcoholic spouse recently quit drinking alcohol? You have waited so so long for this…. You thought you would get your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife back, but your partner still seems out of your reach. Does it feel like your alcoholic spouse is now obsessed with their alcoholism recovery instead of alcohol? Does it feel like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) has kidnapped your spouse because they are at AA meetings instead of with you? This is very common at the beginning of sobriety.
Here are 4 reasons explaining what is going on with your recovering spouse since they quit drinking alcohol:
Your alcoholic spouse has been spending their time drinking, thinking about drinking, in pursuit of drinking, and suffering the consequences of drinking. Alcoholism recovery (sobriety) can be an initial “substitute ” for the addiction. Your spouse is used to doing things to the extreme and has not learned moderation.
Your alcoholic husband/wife is adjusting to a clean and sober lifestyle which means giving up drinking buddies and activities that center around drinking. Going to 12 step programs is the best way to be around sober peers and get immediate support from people who have been through similar transitions.
Alcoholic spouses are often poor communicators and have trouble with emotional intimacy. Your spouse does not have the emotional skills to meet your needs and be emotionally available to you.
Your alcoholic spouse resents the pressure you have put on them to give up their addiction even though they may be grateful too. They often grieve the loss of alcohol in their life.
I know your marriage is very important to you. Things will improve, but in stages. Without alcoholism recovery, your marriage will most likely not survive. After your spouse has some sobriety under their belt, you can start enjoying their participating in the family more, being more reliable, being more truthful with you, and more communicative. Al-Anon and therapy can support you through this rocky period. It is a time you and your alcoholics spouse to work on yourselves to learn to be better for each other.
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