You are so glad that your spouse’s alcohol problem is under control right now. You have waited years for your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife to start their substance abuse recovery. However, you feel left behind as your spouse is focused on his/her alcoholic recovery and not on your marriage or family.
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You feel you have sacrificed so much already and are wondering, ‘Don’t I ever get a turn?” Hang tight and follow these tips.
Encourage your spouse in his/her alcoholic recovery. Your marriage can only heal if your spouse maintains sobriety.
Don’t expect any quick fixes. It took a long time to get to this point.
Be supportive of frequent Alcoholics Anonymous meetings (AA) even if it takes time away from the family.
Join your own support group. Go to an alanon meeting and/or a families anonymous meeting.
Don’t stay in the victim role. You have been caught in a viscious cycle where you have been expending your energy to change his/her behavior. Use this energy to focus on changing your own behavior and attitudes as your spouse is in his/her “alcoholic rehabilitation” . Enjoy a new role in your recovery family ( formerly an “alcoholic family”). You are not responsible for your spouse’s alcoholic recovery. Not playing the rescue role for your alcoholic spouse may leave a void at first, but will be replaced with a lot of joy if you learn to fill the void in healthy ways.
Good luck on your new path. Make this a great year! If you need more tips, click here.