5 Hints That You May Be Addicted To Your Alcoholic Spouse
Posted Jan 20 2011 10:57am
Are you addicted to your alcoholic spouse? That probably seems like a crazy question, but think about this. Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is obsessed with alcohol. Conversely, you are obsessed with your spouse’s drinking habits. Ask yourself, are YOU consumed by your alcoholic spouse’s addiction to alcohol or drugs? Addiction in is a gradual process. It sneaks up on you and before you know it, you are hooked!
Here are 5 ways you may be addicted to your alcoholic spouse:
1. You are obsessed with your alcoholic husband’s drinking habits.
2. You have started lying for your alcoholic spouse to his boss, your family, your kids. You are “covering” for your alcoholic spouse’s addiction against your own values and judgment.
3. You continue your chaotic relationship with your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife despite the negative consequences you experience which may include anxiety, depression, isolation from friends and family, and physical consequences (interruption of your sleep, appetite changes, stomach problems etc.).
4. You literally feel physical symptoms of withdrawal (insomnia, shakiness, loss of appetite, racing heart, diarrhea) if you think your alcoholic spouse has “abandoned” you (he may have had a car wreck, been arrested, or is having an affair).
5. You have tried to leave your alcoholic spouse, but keep going back.
Compare this to your spouse’s alcohol dependence:
1) Your alcoholic husband’s thoughts are consumed with alcohol.
2. Your alcoholic wife lies and tries to hide her drinking from you
3) Your alcoholic husband continues to drink despite the negative consequences that excessive drinking has had on his job, marriage, and health.
4) Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife gets withdrawal when they quit drinking (cravings).
5) Your alcoholic spouse has tried to quit drinking multiple times and failed.
Your signs of being “hooked” are signs of codependency. The best way to get unhooked is your own therapy plus the support you can get from Al-Anon meetings. Learning to set boundaries and put yourself as a priority are ways to break your codependency patterns.
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