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Why do children often teach not to change?

Posted Feb 13 2012 4:02am

Although kai kai haven't evolved to consciously to do some often teach not to change things, but, I had the how to deal with the often teach not to change this method is ready. Supra Skytop Shoes

I can rest assured meet the challenge. Kai kai you hurry up, mom too want to talk to you has ever missed the-always come to grips with your dad, it was too boring. supra skytop ii muska

 

See below for example:

35 years old children may repeatedly on the wall painting................... At this time, take charge of long we will be respond?

 

I'm sure I have parents to do so: immediately went to throw away the child the hands of the pen, a face of angry to lambaste "told you how many times, how always do not change, can't? Here to draw, drawing in HuaBen above. Other you have no skill, scribble you much very, you how so stupid, always understand person's words......" Or was it the more severe point, direct picked up the child and, PaPa, two bottom......

 

The result will happen:

1 and the children really thoroughly change well-behaved, don't draw and are never painted. To spend more money, send him to his again good drawing interest class he also does not like painting- - - - - - - - so it's likely future great painter so are parents to destroy, but who knows?

 

2, children on the surface obedient not disorderly painting, your head and he began to draw, the child obedient, but he change to place a painting, and then he always disorderly painting, always cheek for you quietly scold, waiting for you after...

 

 

The same for example and: age 35 children will often put the toilet water onto the whole room, 35 years old children with a knock things all day; The child to a public place is to run; Children love to do homework; Children homework not earnest, cranky, often teach not to change...................

 

I know similar for example and N many, so the parents, everyday complain, this child is really not obedient. Such children, have more and more thick, you hit you scold gave no response.

Our house of kai kai though not to grow, but a similar thing has happened more than once, the following is experience.

 

As is known to all, I'm learning photography. Yesterday, when I take a photo triumphantly to watching TV kai kai dad appreciate, kai kai dad just took a glance at, and then "to say with you, how many times, don't take it so dead white. I have seen many professional film. The criticism of others you always don't listen, you must be losers in this life"

At that time I spirit the itch to teeth, only answer read a "you're only losers?" immediately ran away

 

The elder brothers, as for? The girl into the food and sleep time to train a environmental protection and energy saving hobby, you still top key link top line said people losers.

Of course something like this criticism has more than once, so kai kai niang in prepare to take photos to kai kai dad appreciate before forecasting a kai kai dad about the reaction, I even have a kind of look forward to, to see if his reaction is this time??????? Like there is a kind of similar abnormal psychology, I just want to stimulate you, I want to let you know, your former criticism even today's criticism, for I have no useless.

 

So what is who is wrong?

Kai kai niang their experience is less and listen to not into the criticism?

Or kai kai dad way of saying no?

 

Do not say first, kai kai niang pictures have good and bad (this is not important).

If kai kai dad in comments before, earnestly to see, and not just take aim at, then change a way to talk may receive better effect:

For example:

1, wife, want to hear you say, you take photos of this kind of style of the idea is??????? Because this photo I some did not understand, the exposure too, not too conforms to the I aesthetic. (standing on the other side of the field to think about asking for no reason, people won't do a thing, children, why he wants to put the painting on the wall, or, we may ask, baby, why do you love the painting the wall instead of paper, listen to his ideas, then comments on)

 

2, the picture composition and viewpoint are very good, but after some exposure too. (first praise, talk like that of after, everyone is easy to accept the child is the same, you have really good painting, such as color match well, you just put the painting on the wall, we don't have a way to mounted, and that's not very good save, less convenient out shows to children and the teacher see......)

 


3, a wife, you and to give photographs whitening? (estimate your criticism does not love to listen to somebody else, you can not reach the final purpose of criticism, so, you will happy to accept even to a little humor. It in their own children on the wall disorderly painting, which is not dangerous, there is no moral problems, is painted with the entire wall and have what problem? Wait for the child, he is not natural, nature will think painted the wall, not beautiful the heavy brush a what? Be a bit small money? Aren't you also HuaZhao big money to give the child to the interested?)

 


4, the wife like me to like photos. This is not a perfunctory, because you must have your idea. (every man a thing to let him in his own right now. For example, children on the wall painting, the home is also the children, are equal, status since you may not like him, draw on the wall that he can also like painting on the wall, he can give his home in charge.------so, children have no wrong.)

...... Similar to the way of speaking there are actually a lot.

 


Estimates that someone see kai kai dad commonly used this sentence criticism I, will feel that I live in hot water will exclamation and clinking. No, no, no, just as the laugh of write mom "with positive thinking at the child's weakness" in said, I am just right is all things will pick the positive son see. Kai kai dad commonly used this sentence criticize me, and didn't give caused much upset, because, but I can get the benefit from it, such as:

When I this southern sweat for kai kai dad with learning to northern noodles, kai kai dad but evaluation said--tastes awful, ha ha, after that, I will no longer need not make the hard life, and now, he wants his hometown of any pasta, he can only to do that, I'm just a little beside a few words of praise encourages, can enjoy pure manual of northern noodles, this is not a good thing?

When I worked hard hard to the home make hygiene, kai kai dad what manner of speaking came point and direct consequence is that, after work he get health, or like now find hour Labour do health (anyway he earn money), I got a relaxed, this is not a good thing?

On the other hand, when I experience the batch of heart after process, also let me understand, we should pay attention to when criticism kai kai skills, this is not a good thing big?

 


Kai kai dad criticism I "losers" yesterday, after a I incredibly soapy ground say to him "husband, you too have just, 1 criticism my words, give me a inspiration. I'm sorrow blog didn't landing?"

Kai kai dad was gas miserable.

To sum up, when the other party (the child) do things you think are wrong when things (and this matter to anyone and won't cause body damage), you must first pressure in your fire that group, close your eyes let myself still think about how to criticism, otherwise, you might as well shut your mouth what also don't say.

 


Delicate: when children often teach not to change, please reflect isn't you to teach the method to have problems.

Similarly, when you love with your old love plays a small temperament, please also reflect on is your way of speaking. Women Supra Skytops Shoe

 

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