In the past 6 days my father had the stroke...the pacemaker and a pneumothorex...When he goes home ....he will need help to survive...does he have a chance with all these things going on? How do you transition parents who refuse help to suddenly accept it. I am truly overwhelmed...he is in the hospital at this time. My mother has Alsheimer's and a depressed brother lives with them ...his help is limited and he comes with a big chip on his shoulder...and they all reject any suggestions anyone has including me. What now? -e
The final outcome for all of us is death. The big question is when (which we can't answer). The 2nd biggest question is have we really lived? Therefore, your dad's (and mom's) chances for survival depend upon how healthy s/he was prior to this collective incident. It will also depend upon how much assistance you & your family can provide him/her. The good news about being in the hospital is that you can ask for a social work consult to assist in getting him/her all the help he needs to continue living at home. Or perhaps to start looking around for assisted living facilities or even nursing homes. The hospital is also a good place to ask for a consult from a geriatrician, someone trained to understand the different needs of an elderly person compared to someone several decades younger. The attending physician can also help arrange for some family conferences to clear the air and help everyone get a better grasp of what's going on and what's required to get your dad home. Good luck!
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In the past 6 days my father had the stroke...the pacemaker and a pneumothorex...When he goes home ....he will need help to survive...does he have a chance with all these things going on? How do you transition parents who refuse help to suddenly accept it. I am truly overwhelmed...he is in the hospital at this time. My mother has Alsheimer's and a depressed brother lives with them ...his help is limited and he comes with a big chip on his shoulder...and they all reject any suggestions anyone has including me. What now? -e