There is a strange and comforting relationship between failure and preparation. It's a common assumption that if you really try your hardest to get something and don't get it, you'll be shattered - so it's safer not to risk going all out. That is totally false. The exact opposite is true. If you've prepared for every contingency you can imagine, and then it doesn't work out, you won't feel so bad. You'll just say, 'Damn! Well, three cheers for me, I really tried,' and go on to the next thing. You never feel really bad when you've given something your best shot . You may be disappointed, but you don't blame yourself. But if you haven't given it your best shot, you feel terrible. Because you never really know whether you could have done better... but you do know you could have done more. Win or lose, all-out efforts leave you feeling clean and good about yourself.
Barbara Sher
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