Don't forget to take time off from your relationship if you want it to thrive in retirement
Posted Sep 15 2009 10:02pm
Do you worry about you and your partner getting under each others' feet once you both retire?
Gay Hendricks is a psychologist, writer and practitioner in the field of personal growth and relationships and is best known for his work in relationship enhancement. In his latest book, The Big Leap, he advises:
'Make sure you take plenty of time for yourself, in a space apart from your partner. It could even be in the next room, so long as the intention is to nurture the independent part of you. Human beings have twin drives of equal power: the urge to merge and the urge to be an autonomous person. For a relationship to thrive, both drives need to be celebrated.
If you can learn to take time off from the relationship consciously, you won't need to do it unconsciously by starting arguments and engaging in other intimacy-destroying moves.'