Ok, so we had a good long run of 5 days without poopies or puddles in the 'ol bedroom. Then we had house guests. 7 year old son welcomed them with a sticky, stinky bedroom. Oh well. Say what you will. 5 days is 5 days. Woo hoo!
It was a rough couple of days for 7 year old son. There are so many things I can write. How about a little of what ODD looks like?
We had our visitors with us for church service yesterday. It was too much for 7 year old son. I don't know what goes through his head. He pretended not to know he can't put his dirty shoes on the chair. When I asked him to put them down, he began wiping them on my skirt. When I asked him to put his feet down, he threw his Bible on the floor. Then he sat there. When he got up to make a scene with retrieving the Bible as a guise, I took the book from him and told him to sit down. So, logically, the next step is banging himself in his head with his fists. Then the rude burping.
So I gave him permission to lose it. Instead of telling him to stop, or trying to calm him, or telling him he's ok, or threatening punishment, I told him, "You can do whatever you want. You can scream, kick, spit, pee, poo, turn the chair over, whatever you want."
He stopped. I know that doesn't work every time, but it is nice when the ODD works for me.
It was a rough couple of days for 7 year old son. There are so many things I can write. How about a little of what ODD looks like?
We had our visitors with us for church service yesterday. It was too much for 7 year old son. I don't know what goes through his head. He pretended not to know he can't put his dirty shoes on the chair. When I asked him to put them down, he began wiping them on my skirt. When I asked him to put his feet down, he threw his Bible on the floor. Then he sat there. When he got up to make a scene with retrieving the Bible as a guise, I took the book from him and told him to sit down. So, logically, the next step is banging himself in his head with his fists. Then the rude burping.
So I gave him permission to lose it. Instead of telling him to stop, or trying to calm him, or telling him he's ok, or threatening punishment, I told him, "You can do whatever you want. You can scream, kick, spit, pee, poo, turn the chair over, whatever you want."
He stopped. I know that doesn't work every time, but it is nice when the ODD works for me.