We just got back from having lunchables in the park. My idea of cooking.
I took my 17 year old to fill out a job application. He and I have a joke that I use when I feel like I am doing too much thinking for him. Now some of my kids do require my direction often, and I do a lot of their thinking for them. But sometimes I catch myself answering questions that they can answer for themselves.
At that point I say, "Breathe In, Breathe Out."
This is their clue that maybe they are relying on me to tell them to do things they already know how to do.