Who am I kidding? Parenting in general takes commitment. That’s no secret, and it’s not an exclusive club for parents raising a child with ADHD or any other child who is different. No matter who your child is, or what unique challenges they face, your job as a parent is all relative to your experience, right?
I’ve said before that I have no magic tricks, and that I don’t have all the answers. But what I do have is the belief and conviction that all of our children are different and need different things. Boy or girl, ADHD or no ADHD, our children will all require different supports. I honestly think that anyone who has it easy (raising their children) isn’t really involved enough in their lives. That’s just the way it is. Yes, you could have it easier, but somewhere along the way you faced challenges and it was a struggle.
Did I Really Just Generalize That?
Parenting is a contact sport, and it takes commitment. It takes commitment because no matter what strategies I give you (or my clients) - there is likely going to be some push back. Yes, some of them will make a difference right away. But no matter the situation, there will likely be a period of adjustment, and it is likely going to be a little uncomfortable.
One of my mentors helped me understand that you aren’t really experiencing change unless you go outside of your comfort zone and feel out of sorts. Playing it safe is the easy way… It’s what we know, and it generally will lead to the same results we are used to getting.
As my clients left the office today, they were a little skeptical of what I had suggested they do. I had asked them to do the opposite of what their intuition normally recommend. I wanted them to shock the system a little bit. Instead of punishing their son, I asked them to let something pass this one time. It was uncomfortable, and I liked that… It had them thinking creatively.
When I knew they were still a little skeptical, I told them that this likely won’t make sense when it happens. I also cautioned them that they might not necessarily see an immediate change. I asked them to take a leap of faith with me, and stay committed to the process.
The Morale (So To Speak)
I’m not gonna lie to you. I think if you want atypical results, you have do things a little different from the norm. You have to stop listening to what everyone else tells you they know — unless of course they are getting the results you want while working towards similar goals. And for me, that’s what it’s all about.
This family wanted to shake things up, and to do that, you have take some chances. For me, it’s NOT so much about the answer you give as it is how prepared you are to deal with what comes next. You can try, and try, and try new methods out… Almost every time, it’s likely to feel out of sorts. But if you are prepared and committed, you can manage that kickback and get the results you want.
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