Today we need to talk about a very serious issue… Safety!
It’s one of the bedrock principles in my book, Help Your Child [With ADHD] Succeed
It’s also one of the very first discussion points I have when meeting with new clients.
Now fortunately, it doesn’t come up all that often where I need to be concerned about it, but I like to plan.
I like to let people know what they can expect.
If we were to meet in my office, part of my introduction would be, “If you don’t want to be here, the door is open. I won’t force you to stay. It’s not a good use of your time or mine. If you feel the need to call me names, while I think it’s unnecessary and rude, you are entitled to express yourself and I will respect that. What I will NOT tolerate is any safety concerns. If at any time you get angry or upset, the door is open. I just ask you keep your hands to yourself and we will get along just fine.”
I learned this early on in my training.
Safety comes first, above all else!
Never stand in the way of your patient / client, and certainly don’t block the exits.
When Your Child Gets Physical
Every now and again, I am asked about ADHD and anger. Sometimes, the conversation turns to physical behavior.
For me, any physical behavior where a child puts their hands on someone else, everything stops. There is no more important issue than everyone’s safety.
If you face this situation, I will tell you flat out that you need to contact your child’s doctor, therapist, other support personnel, or even the police if need be.
I do NOT take safety issues lightly.
If your child is getting physical with you, or a sibling, the world immediately stops.
You remove your child from the situation and let them know that this type of behavior is unacceptable and will NOT be tolerated.
I cannot stress this enough.
Being physical to the point of hurting someone is NOT something I allow in my office, and it’s a priority one issue when working with families.
The best advice I can offer you is:
Stop the situation the safest way possible.
Separate the parties involved.
Let the offending person know this behavior is NOT and will NOT be tolerated under any circumstances.
If the violence continues, call the police.
End of story. I do NOT take matters of physical harm lightly and neither should you.
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